Understanding ADHD in Children
Building Focus, Confidence, and Calm through Structure and Compassion
It’s 7:15 a.m., and Jake is already in motion. He’s bouncing from the breakfast table to the couch, halfway dressed, cereal spilling behind him like breadcrumbs. His mom’s voice grows tense — “Shoes, Jake! You need your shoes!” — but he’s already chasing the dog down the hall, laughing, unaware of how late they are.
By the time they reach school, both are frazzled. Jake forgets his backpack; his mom forgets to breathe. At pickup, the teacher mentions impulsive outbursts and “trouble following directions.” His mom drives home with that heavy mix of love, guilt, and worry — knowing her child’s heart is good, but wondering why everything feels so hard.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Parenting a child with ADHD often feels like running a marathon in a world built for sprinters — constant motion, constant redirection, and constant reminders that your child “doesn’t fit the mold.” But beneath the chaos is a bright, sensitive, deeply feeling child who needs understanding, not shame.
ADHD isn’t a discipline problem — it’s a difference in how the brain processes attention, emotion, and energy. When parents learn how to meet that difference with structure, empathy, and connection, real change happens — for the child and the family.
ADHD is a neurodevelopmental difference — not a behavior problem. Children with ADHD often think creatively, feel deeply, and move energetically.
What ADHD Can Look Like:
- Trouble sitting still
- Big emotions
- Difficulty with transitions
- Forgetfulness or impulsivity
- Hyperfocus on interests
Strengths of ADHD Brains:
- Innovation
- Curiosity
- Resilience
- Humor and passion
- Leadership energy
Support Strategies for Parents:
Provide structure: Visual schedules, timers, clear expectations.
Build movement into routines. Movement regulates the brain.
Teach emotional language: “I notice your body is having a hard time being still.”
Use co‑regulation. Connection before correction.
Therapy Helps When:
School, self‑esteem, or family routines become overwhelming — or when parents want
tools to support a thriving, confident child.
Rooted Counseling offers child, family, and individual therapy in Folsom and Loomis, California.
Reach out today to learn how we can support your family’s growth and connection!
Written by Heather Peterson, LMFT